My child and I: self- and child-reference effects among parents with self-worth contingent on children’s performance

Research shows that parents’ self-worth may be contingent on their children’s performance, with implications for their interactions with children. This study examined whether such child-based worth is manifested in parents’ recognition memory. Parents of school-age children in China (N = 527) reported on their child-based worth and completed a recognition memory task involving evaluative trait adjectives encoded in three conditions: self-reference, child-reference, and semantic processing. The more parents had child-based worth, the more they exhibited a child-reference effect – superior recognition memory of evaluative trait adjectives encoded with reference to the child rather than semantically. Parents exhibited the classic self-reference effect in comparisons of recognition memory between the self-reference and semantic processing conditions, but this effect was not evidenced among parents high in child-based worth. Only parents low in child-based worth exhibited the self-reference effect in comparisons between the self-reference and child-reference conditions. Findings suggest that when parents hinge their self-worth on children’s performance, evaluative information related to children may be an elaborate structure in memory.